What should I do about my grandma

What should I do about my grandma?
I am a navy wife with twin 4 yr old girls. I am in the states visiting my sick grandma who I am really really close with. My husband is back in Europe where we are stationed. Here is my question, I am visiting her now for a week, she has cancer and will die soon..I want to stay, but we have other comitments back home (camping trip with others in May) and things going on. I can stay here technically, but I don't know what to do? My grandma has a nurse who is so nice 24 hrs, and there is always family with her visiting...but I miss her and I don't know what to do?? Should I head back as planned on the 9th of May, or stay here? (I already bought my plane ticket with the girls back to Virginia to get on a military flight back home).
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1 :
You can have other trips, but only one grandma. Stay.
2 :
I'd stay with my grandma. She'll be dead forever, yet there's an expected lifetime ahead to do family trips. So sorry, best wishes.
3 :
Do whatever you feel that you must... Just remember that you can always re-schedule a camping trip.. you can not reschedule time with your dying grandmother. Talk to your husband about it as well.
4 :
Say your goodbyes to Grandma now and get back to your life. It's what Grandma would want!
5 :
u shoud stay with ur grandma...................sence u luv her that much
6 :
if you grandma is close to die then I think that you should spend as much time as you can with her. I rememeber when i used to say i should have done something, so make sure you don't say the should have and just go and see her. talk to her and give her company.
7 :
you can always go camping another time.spend as much time with your grandma as you can cause she wont be here that long.
8 :
Only you can answer that. If you have already said your goodbyes and are prepared to let her go then leave. If you would not be able to forgive yourself if she passed and you weren't around then stay. There are no right or wrong answers here. Follow your heart.
9 :
Well, if getting drunk in the woods is more important to you, then go for it. Personally, I think your family members' death is a little bit higher priority, but it takes all kinds....
10 :
I think you will regret if you do not stay with your grandmother. Your time with her is so precious and short. You need to be with her NOW!!
11 :
you have your whole life but only one grandmother who you wont be seeing alot of due to a death. i know you have commitments but stay and help her untill it is her time to go. she is very sick. just help her out
12 :
Thats a really tough situation but do you really think that you could enjoy anything that you have planned knowing that her last moments will not be spent with you? If it was me I would spend time with her.
13 :
Speaking from experience I would stay with her because if you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life.
14 :
I think you should go back. You got to spend this time with her and I'm sure she was very happy to have you here. It won't matter that you won't be there at the last second if she has other family around. Please don't worry, remember her with love and go on with your life.
15 :
Sorry for going Freud... but answer these questions. Will you be happy camping, thinking of your Grandma? Would you want to be there for the final moment and say the last good bye? Which ever is yes, well that's your answer.
16 :
Hmmm... Camping trip or stay with grandma... Tough choices, flip a coin. You're a horrible granddaughter.
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I feel since you say you are close with your grandma, you should stay. It is not her fault she fell ill and if you were out of town and something happened to where she passed away, trust me the guilt will flow through your viens. You have your whole life ahead of you, she may only have days or weeks. I feel you should stay. You can always make trips with friends and family. Be there for her in her time of need, hold her hand and speak of old times and memories, look into her eyes and tell her how much she is loved and that it will be okay that you two will see each other again. I lost my father, I miss him dearly although I was there for him when he passed on. It was very hard, but I did it. He passed a day before my b-day. It is hard at times. So I feel you should put your plans aside and be there for your grandmother whom you love so dearly. In your question with all your concerns, it sounds like you may have answered your own question withough even knowing. I wish you luck hon. God Bless You and your Grandma. Embrace this time, it will be the last time you will see her physically. And I'm sure in her heart she loves you dearly.
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Is she terminal or just sick? I know how u feel, im sorry u have to go through that! There is no family you can stay with and homeschool the girls till u get back>? Get all of their schoolwork and bring it to the states with u! Best of luck sweety, im sorry
19 :
May 9th is a long way off. The hospice nurse would see signs of impending death if your grandma was very close to dying. If she is very close to dying and you were planning to come back for the funeral, it might be easier to stay put. If you stay until May 9th, and your grandma is still alive, then you have spent a long period of quality time with your grandma while she was alive. I think your grandma realizes that you have a life back home. Long distance relationships are always difficult. I think your grandma is old enough and wise enough to understand that. If you want to stay because you want to... then stay. Don't leave because someone else wants you to feel obligated to leave. But if you are only staying out of guilt, I doubt your grandma would want that. Enjoy your days together, and make the most of them, but if you need to leave, don't feel guilty. Obviously you love your grandma, and I am willing to wager that she can feel your love, even from miles away.